Sunday, May 4, 2008

more perfect


I wouldn’t call Jake a big reader but one of his all time favorites is A River Runs Through It. He has the book, he has it on CD and of course we have the movie memorized. It gets turned on when we’re having a little down time every so often. There’s this one part when the author, a fly fisherman of course, is catching more fish than his brother for once and he’s feeling pretty good about himself. He says, “When I was young, a teacher had forbidden me to say ‘more perfect’ because she said if a thing is perfect it can’t be more so. But by now I had seen enough of life to have regained my confidence in it. Twenty minutes ago I had felt perfect, but by now my brother was taking off his hat and changing flies every few casts…Once in a while I looked back and smiled at the basket. I could hear it thumping on the rocks and falling on its side. However I may have violated grammar, I was feeling more perfect with every Rainbow.”

One night on a date things didn’t go quite how we planned and we ended up eating late at this delicious restaurant. We got some seafood chowder and split the seared tuna on a bed of greens and I swear it was the most delicious meal I had ever eaten. It tasted perfect and filled me up just right—you know when you’re satisfied but not so full that you feel sick. I can’t even really remember what else we did; I just remember that the meal and the company were as close to heaven as I could get and as we were walking down the street hand in hand I said “This was the perfect night.” He said, “No, it was more perfect.”

We have taken on that phrase now when things are going exceptionally well. And here I am ready to go to sleep for the night on our twelfth wedding anniversary and it’s all I can think about. How my marriage is more perfect.


Shelby said...

What a sweet post!

I think I remember that you accidently left Jake's ring at home when you guys went to get married, and Kara had to drive it to you. . . is that right?
Happy Anniversary!

Suzie Petunia said...

Very happy for you. :)

toni said...

We we married on the exact same day? I forgot that. No wonder you weren't at my reception! Happy anniversary!

andrea said...

one of my favorite things in blogland is to read sappy marriage posts. i love them. i love them more because i know how rare they are, and how fragile it all is. i feel extra happiness for people who capture it and value it. congrats to you guys.

xianfern said...

I thought of you two yesterday.. you were married on the 50th wedding anniversary of my grandparents! Congrats! I can't think of a more perfect couple than the two of you!! :)

calibosmom said...

YEAH! I love you guys! I hope to be feeling more perfect Saturday afternoon! YEHAW!

Anonymous said...

We are not lovers
because of the love we make,
but the love
we have.

We are not friends
because of the laughs we share,
but the tears
we save.

I don't want to be near you
for the thoughts we share,
but the words we never have
to speak.

I will never miss you
because of what we do,
but what we are

by Nikki Giovanni

One my favorites for two of my favorites. Happy Anniversary - much love to you both!!


Anonymous said...

Man has been eating God's oats for thousands of years. It is not the place of an 35 year old man to change that.

It's crazy to think it's been 12 years. I remember your wedding day like it was 12 years ago.

That fish looks wicked awsome. Did Jake place it in his grass lined creel?

Filthy Bill

Abby said...

You guys are awesome. I love how you put it all--just beautiful! Happy 12th!

Tori said...

Love this post, Brit! I wish you 12+12+12+12+12 more perfect years together! (that is 60 years, so you better live that long) ;)

jake said...

This is a fun thing for me to find 4 days after…what did we even do this last weekend???
After all the intricacies and little bumps in the paint that I work so hard to smooth, this "once a year" brings me back to the perfect simplicity of why I married you and I once again remember to step back and see the beautiful masterpiece before me, discovering that the little bumps in the paint are of course, the millions of careful brush strokes, the actual reasons why I married you then and why I love you more than anything now. You just have to tell me to leave the bumps alone! Poor sweet person.
I’m sitting where you usually sit and the soothing wind chimes are gently chiming and the peepers are calling in the woods…And now there are six noisy feet over my head rattling the chandelier with accompanying muffled screams. Aaahhhh, your reality… Thanks for being my soul mate. XO

Emily said...

Congrats on your more perfect marriage! I can't believe it has been 12 years. That is something to be proud of. And could Jake's comment be anymore perfect? What a sweet man! Love ya, Brit!

Kara said...

You guys can't be more perfect together! Jake almost made me cry!

Dallas & Krista said...

Oooh this made me tear up. I feel so lucky that my wonderful sister is being taken care of by her wonderful man.